Last week, I tried to make Chapathis. I know the process, but I called my younger sister who wants to always educate me!
Whatever I know, she told the same. I started preparing. But at the end, I could ‘invent’ some inverted maps of existing countries and continents. Of course, the taste remained same as the ingredients that made for Chapathi were intact.
But, why I could not make Chapathis in round shape?
We talk at the end about Chapathis. I got another point. I want some clues or answers why do people behave ‘cheap’ but not ‘costly’ in some instances.
This holds good for many who out there living in the world. I don’t want to blame others so I am blaming myself and my friends.
My room mates and I are not exceptional. We are as normal as a guy who is at the age of 25 to 27 yeras old. Because of our parents interests or pushed by the stream, we all are working for good IT companies. One thing to be noted here is we all are not married. Single. So no control over expenditures (I am talking about a normal guy who is at 25 to 27 years old.) We do spend more on some on-the-moment-wanted-to-buy items. Like…
>> Ram bought costly goggles that costs around 3500/- He never puts on them. Not only goggles many items.
>> Bhaskar brought one USB powered polycorbonate transparent tray equipped with 3 fans, beautifully decorated LEDs and some blah blah blah. This tray is to keep the laptop’s ass cool. He never uses it. (His laptop does not have graphics card. So, heat vents already provided to the laptop are enough.)
>> I don’t want to tell about myself, there is a big list. I am having 3 to 4 hooded shirts, I hardly wear and some extra stuff.
Etc. etc.
These are the some (in fact there are many) incidents we spent money just to live that moment and we never cherished them again. We did not cherish because, we did not want to buy them in need but out of temptation. These stupid money-spenders do behave weird at sometimes – conjuse. You know when? Read on.
>>> House maid, who has been working in our house since more than a year, asks for a ‘hike’ of 100/- (Per head 20/- extra monthly)
>>> Tip to a server. “Rs 5 or 10? Rs.2 is enough.” Big discussion. Comedy is… suggestions came to not give tip at all ‘cos the brought Pepsi after asking 3 to 4 times. So we got hurted. (Per head Re.1)
>>> Auto. If auto driver asks Rs.30 for 4 people (Per head Rs.7.50) we bargain with him to come for Rs.25 (Per head 6.25). So we fight for a difference of Rs. 1.25 (Per head Rs.1.25)
>>> When time comes to choose between hotels (In padma’s meals is 40/- but in Balaji Mess it is just 35/-.) A big discussion to save 5/- (Per head Rs.5)
>>> While having dosas/idli at Prakash’s cuicine
if any begger comes (Don’t mind whether she or he or a kid) we never give a rupee. If she asks more than once, we try to escape as if she is touching us with her dirty hands and we even feel embarassed to be chansed by her.
>>> Adding water to hand-wash-foamer to postpone buying the another one. One of us once tried to educate us also how to use it with out getting it wasted.
>>> Buying chappal for chit-chat-out-going.
>>> Etc. etc.
Of course, if you add all these per head amount a month it may sum up to some considerabale amount. But not for us (May not be for many of you too) because all these above activities may not happen every month like dining out, going movies etc.
Now, question is why these big-money-spenders behave more than conjuse at times. I could ‘frame’ some answers. Two of them being,
1. At the above said instances you wont get materialistic returns.
2. (Worst of all) You may feel, you are doing a favor at a cheaper rate to him.
3. (Not true) Our conscience may tell, “you have already spent more on goggles or shirts or something, so don’t tip him/ don’t give her 1 rupee etc. etc.”
So guys… I want to know some more answers if you have instances like said above. I am sure you had. Just for fun or realization, talk to yourself and write answers in comments to this post.
Okay… now I come to point, why I could not make Chapathis? The answer is, it was the first time I tried.
Good man. Good insight.
By scolding yourself, you scolded us.
Nice try.
I try to give you answer for the begger one. That is not because of anything other than, just we dont think of giving one rupee. We are not that much rude. But mind wont stimulate much to do the action. I should tell, it must be ignorance or no responsibility. Sorry for using responsibility.
What do you say Mr. Drunken Philosopher?
Bhavana
Hey Chandu…
You are intelligent yar!
Your post name is about Chapathis. ‘Why I could not make Chapathis’. This name attracted us to read the post thinking of some funny things. But in the post you have educated us about our general mentalities.
You made us to read a nice post. That is so nice.
I have read all your posts. The funny posts are too funny. The scary posts are scary. They have got just what they deserve.
Keep on writing man!
Bhavana,
NY
Hi Bhavana,
The usage of the word ‘Responsibility’ in your comment must have some meaning in your mind. You need not to be sorry for that. It has some inner meaning in using that. Let me guess, “You feel responsible to help those who are in need.” If I am correct I am happy, otherwise I think, I did a good guess. Thank you!
We feel responsible to help those who are in need. This is what I wrote above. This reminds me one dialogue in the movie “A few good men”. (The names here are characters.) Dawson tells Downy that they commited a mistake by killing William Santiago (Willie) because, being marine corps they should fight for the ones who cannot fight for themselves.

Chandu
Hey great to see a response for my comment. Chandu, whatever you wrote was not in my mind. But your justification was awesome. That’s good man! Your point on being responsible is good!
Sorry, I did not watch the movie A Few Good men. But I am impressed wid da line “being marine corps they should fight for the ones who cannot fight for themselves.”
Bhavana
Good post to read.
I partially support Bhavana. It is just ignorance.
Krish
Partialy thanks Krish.
All crap folks…we are brought up in such a way..
–> Stay away from strangers
–> If you do not drink milk I will give you to beggar (boochaadu) — hope u understand this word
–> Bargaining is part of our life… Go to a mall you buy of any cost bcos u cant bargain there..he won’t give a damn about it… Given a chance people will surely bargain there too. (“aaaaj discounts hain kya?” – how many times while shopping we hear this? I am sure answer is everytime…)
–> Autowalas – yes again we bargain bcos we know he is already stealing from us..let us make a his profit less…Isn’t it?
–> Beggars: do you think all these people are really beggars and really sick (few of them may be) but it has become a chain especially in cities… it is a part of corporate world and making income these days…
If we start talking about every issue niether can we make chapatis nor can we eat them happily..So just find happiness whatever you do and eat happily so that you can live longer..BTW…now-a-days no one cares about other person’s life (again there are few exceptions)….
Aaaahhhhhh.. it’s been a long reply… let me put an end and give food for thought:
While driving if you see a person hitting a bike or car and falling down…would you pullover to help or just go by as u know there will be a traffic mess in next 5 min and u have to stay there in the traffic for next 50 min …. seriously let the answer be truthful…PLZ
Ha ha… good Raghu! What you told is correct.
So… do you mean to say, we were brought up in the wrong way?
It is very much common to ask for the discounts. My urge is to understand where to donate money and where to waste the money.
As you told – ‘now-a-days no one cares about other person’s life (some exceptions)’. I dont give a damn to those exceptions. There are always good chances to think about others and to do something to others.
What do you say Raghu?
Tawfeeq
Hey Raghu and Tawfeeq, you both may/can be good.
I could see some relation between your replies. Raghu is telling about the childhood days and common mentality what we have. And you are telling about helping others.
It is upto us, to come out of the childhood-parental- brought-up and to take freedom to help others.
What you both say?
Chandu
What I feel is be truthful to self..You should be in a position to give explanation for urself..worst case..give excuses so that u cud not do a deed…
Tawfeeq..I really don’t think we are brought up in a wrong way…but the world around us has changed, so we have to change too..
Forward good things for the future generation…Do not cultivate differences…
I feel, when we were hardly 3 to 5 years old, parents might be told like that. Again, they do expect from us to help others once we grow on our own mentality.
So… Raghu, whatever you told are correct when we were kids, but tawfeeq is correct when we grew up.
We should judge at the moment to help beggers – is he really a begger?
, does he have all his parts
working (LEgs and arms) etc. etc.
So… I feel, it is always good to help others.
God sees everything.
Chandu
Chandu,
What you told is correct. It is upto us to come out and take freedom or voluntaryship to help others.
IN other way, what Raghu tells is… The beggers are not real. They do have all parts of their body functining.
But they are cheating us.
I DO SUPPORT ALL OF YOUR OPINIONS. BUT ONE SHOULD NOTE THAT THEY ALL ARE CONTEXTUAL. WHICHEVER IS TRUE ON THE MOMENT, WE SHOULD ACT WITH THAT.
Bhavana
Well said Bhavana…very true…
Some good lesson in your post. It is true in real time, but some are exceptions
Yes… there are exceptions.
Ilaa prathi dee… chinna kharche kadaa ani lite teesukuntoo pote… avannee kalipite pedda kharchu outundi kadaa ani maa friends adigaru.
I dont have answer for that!
Do you have any answer Vasuki garu?
Chandu
మీరన్నట్టు 3500/- ఖర్చు పెట్టినప్పుడు అందులోంచి 1 రూ. దానం చేయడం తప్పు కాదు. పెద్ద షాపులలో బేరాలాడటం కుదరదు, అడగాలన్నా నామోషి కదా. అదే ఆటో, ఇంకోటో అయితే మొహమాటం లేకుండా అడిగేస్తాం. నాకనిపిస్తుంది ఇలాంటి విషయాలలో లాభనష్టాలతో కాకుండా మనసుతో ఆలోచించాలని. ఒక ముష్టివాడు వచ్చి అడిగినప్పుడు మహాయితే ఒక రూపాయి దానం చేస్తాం అదైనా రోజు కాదుకదా. దాని వల్ల నష్టమేమి లేదు. ఖరీదైన గాగుల్స్ మన గొప్పని చెప్పటానికే కాని అది నేలపాలై విరిగితే అప్పుడేమిటి. సొమ్ము వృధాయే గదా. అప్పుడులేని ఖర్చు లెక్కలు ఎప్పుడైనా చేసే చిన్న చిరు సహాయాలకి అనవసరం. ఏదైనా ఇది ఆయా వ్యక్తుల స్వభావం, ఆలోచనల మీద ఆధరపడి ఉంటుందని నా అభిప్రాయం. ఒకటి మాత్రం నిజం ఏమి చేయాలన్న దానికి మనసుండాలి.
I agreed totally. I will tell the same to my friends.
ఒకటి మాత్రం నిజం ఏమి చేయాలన్న దానికి మనసుండాలి. -> nice.
Chandu
this was a interesting style of writing buddy….